Domenica Papalia

Sacred Feminine Power: Do You Yin Without Yang? The Real Reason For The Silent Struggle Within [Part Three]

Posted on 24. May, 2011 by Domenica in Emotional Wellness, Sacred Feminine Power

Look at a yin and yang symbol and you will quickly notice that white (representing masculine) flows into the black (representing feminine). In the simplest explanation, the yin and yang symbol represents a necessary balance of both. For me, this symbol perfectly represents the expression of the Sacred Feminine and Divine Masculine within each of us.

Much like the symbol, one cannot exist without the other, AND one cannot recognise itself without the other (how will you know what is feminine without the contrast of the masculine right?) The body intrinsically craves balance and I believe that our Spirit does also. We are healthiest, happiest and most prosperous when we achieve a state of internal balance of both these energies.

At our very core, we are a beautiful balance of Sacred Feminine and Divine Masculine. What you may not realise is that we also contain feminine and masculine energy as it was defined by our early childhood experiences. Our ancestral beliefs, our family of origin experiences and the collective opinions that the world shares on gender differences, begin to shape inaccurate perceptions of feminine and masculine energies in our minds and bodies. At any given moment, we are either expressing our Sacred Feminine or our modelled feminine, that is, the feminine energy as we learnt to express it growing up. This applies in exactly the same way for our masculine energy. The two are often confused because for most of us, there is no emotional education. Calculus? Yes. History? Yes. Emotions and Energy? No!

As we grow up and have certain experiences and relationships with different people, we develop an internal model of the masculine and feminine and we learn to assign certain qualities as either “male” or “female”. This strictly speaking is incorrect.

Very quickly our internal brilliance and divinity is masked (yet never extinguished) by these modelled energies with many references citing this sort of modelling of gender qualities to have occurred by seven years of age.

Put simply, at our very core and essence we hold a perfect and sacred balance between the Sacred Feminine and the Divine Masculine, and by the age of 7 (if studies are correct) we are expressing what I have come to call the modelled feminine and the modelled masculine.

In this article we will focus on the modelled masculine, not to be confused with Divine Masculine, which is a truly delicious energy to embrace and express. I call the modelled masculine energy Bluebeard, (based on a story by medieval French author Charles Perrault). The archetypal energy of the Bluebeard works quietly behind the scenes to disconnect women (and men) from their Sacred Feminine Power and from their power of creation. This energy can be recognised as the feeling that insidiously reminding that you are not good enough, thin enough, smart enough, woman enough, or whatever “enough”.

You may even recognise it as the voice in your head that says “Well if you just lose another few kilograms, or get another degree, or find a better mate….”…and it seems such helpful advice right? The problem is; once you ‘get’ what it is that you think you ‘should get’ then it’s still not quite right. So you continue to search aimlessly. Perhaps you lose a few more kilograms, get another rise, do another course and then you’ll be enough. However, even when you do lose a few more kilograms, get another rise, do another course there is still something else on that to-do list for you to be enough. It’s a never ending and vicious cycle that keeps us VERY, VERY STUCK

Bluebeard is the energy that keeps women (and men) playing small, staying invisible, thinking they are not good enough or smart enough or valuable enough. It blocks confidence and progress. It’s the part of us that is terrified of our power and will do what it can to stop us from expressing that power. Remember Marianne Williamson’s poem “ It is our light and not our darkness that most frightens us”. You’ll recognise the energy when you feel stuck, are procrastinating and feeling frozen and unable to move forward with your dreams and goals.

Here’s the good news! Much like a bully, who once confronted backs down, the Bluebeard energy, when brought to awareness, can no longer hold any power over us.

Here are the 3 keys to reclaiming your Sacred Feminine Power from the grip of Bluebeard:

1) Be okay with where you are. We all know the old adage ‘What you resist persists.’ Once you release any resistance about feeling stuck, there is space for a different possibility. If you keep judging yourself for where you’re at, not only are you fuelling the Bluebeard energy, (What’s wrong with you? Can’t you even get a simple thing done? If you were smarter you could make more money etc.), you are also shutting off any chance for a different possibility to enter.

2) Spend time feeling the difference between the Bluebeard energy and the Divine Masculine. You can do this easily by sitting quietly for a few moments and asking your Divine Intelligence to show you the difference. As an example, for me the Divine Masculine feels loving, strong and very protective. The Bluebeard feels like ice around my heart and I feel frozen. You must first recognise it and notice it to be able to make a different choice and release its hold over you.

3) Love is the antidote to Bluebeard, so choose to focus on knowing you ‘are enough, no matter what’ as much as you are able at any given moment. Remember, when you forget you ‘are enough’, go back to key (1).

In the next article we will talk about the five principles which, when practised, will deepen your reawakening and re-emergence of your Sacred Feminine Power.

What will you illuminate at this moment? Where will you choose to put your attention and focus? Forget what you’ll do tomorrow. Now is the only moment you have. How does the Bluebeard express in your life? Love to hear.